Cycling through to acceptance

I have been analyzing my own behavior again, and I have learned something about myself in the process, how I cycle through an issue to come full circle to acceptance.
This is my process:
First I am in shock, then disgust and maybe a little rage, I go through disgust and anger a few times until I jump on a new cycle. The next stage is typically general annoyance, then trying to see something from the other side or the other person's perspective. I then disagree with a greater understanding, and begin to come to terms with the issue at hand. Finally, after I have gone through these cycles a while, I come back to love and acceptance.
You may catch me at any one of these stages on something. I am sorry if you catch me at a beginning stage, sometimes it can be ugly if you are around. I will eventually come back to acceptance of differences, but not the cop out "agree to disagree" it just lights my fire again. I have to cycle back through usually. The best friends I have will go through this process and see the other side as well, not just give it up in the beginning, and not even peek at the other side of an issue. That is what infuriates me about dogmatic religions and social norms. When someone challenges my beliefs, I listen to the other side, and process again to gain new awareness. I don't want or need everyone to agree with me, I want and need friends who will have diplomatic discussions, and not give up on me when we disagree on something, but examine the issue with me.
As my good friend Dan says, "For those who demand excellence"
Signing off.