Saturday, January 17, 2009

Interesting how this feels like...

It is amazing how one can live multiple lives within the same body.
As I have been packing things, and selling things, and giving them away, it has felt pretty liberating. I have been thinking a lot about bodily death, not in the sad negative way, but in the renewal, rebirth, cleansing way. I have been going around the house feeling like I am making my will trying to decide who gets what, and where things should go. I have things picked out to give to friends as presents, like my clock that my friend Nima has been after for years. She is getting it this weekend finally. I gave an antique table to a friend here last week, and she was so excited about it. It feels so right to do this, and I am starting to understand how my Grandmother feels when she tries to give us her things before her "big journey." I always tend to get upset with her when she does this, but had resigned to allowing her to give me her treasures, and now I get it. She likes to make people feel special, and to get to watch them enjoy that. It won't matter at all after we pass into the next realm how someone feels about the treasure, it only matters now. Once we pass on, we can't take anything with us except the love. I am getting pretty good at this unattachment thing. I do have some posessions that I am going to store, like pictures and a family heirloom, but the rest of it is going.
I have also been cleaning up some relationships as if it were my last days. Something everyone should do. Releasing negative feelings harbored and replacing them with love.
I heard of a chiropractor a few months back who had a patient who was told he had cancer. He was, of course, an emotional wreck, and he confided in his good doc about it. The chiropractor asked him if there was anything he wanted to do before he died, if that were to happen, and not the "I want to travel here..blah...blah..." The patient told him he had some people in his life that he had estranged relationships with. The doctor told him not to wait, to clear those up, make them right. He said to him, "What if the reason you have cancer is BECAUSE of those bad relationships? What if by making them right, you also make your cancer disappear?" The patient did as asked, and he dramatically improved, his cancer went into remission. He is now living a better, less stressed life, and that is the key.
So, I am purging "things" and negative emotions toward others. How freeing and liberating to be moving on with less baggage and a cleaner slate, starting a new life completely!

1 comment:

Anonymous said...

hi jen :) just wanted to know that i still read your post. i like this one in particular. its honest and true. i wish we could all remember to live like this every single day. i recently had a "break up" with a fellow mom i had been hanging out with who also has a 15 month old girl. she seemed so nice at first, but as i got to know her, her true self started to poke through. it ended badly via email, with her calling me sensitive and me calling her overbearing (she's a lawyer, neo-conservative, suburban mom). there's still bad feelings there i'm sure, but i'd rather just let it go. but your post made me think otherwise, maybe i should send a card of "truce" so that when i see her in public, we don't have a stare down. what do you thinK?